Monday, April 09, 2012

Nobody Dies Anymore

Have you noticed people stopped saying "died?" What's with that? Now people pass away like some ship in the distance or worse, they just "pass." Really? Fred passed yesterday? What? Did the grim reaper show up and ask Fred, "Do you want to keep living?" And Fred responded, "I'll pass."
I've noticed when I say something like: '98? My dad died in '98, people sort of grimace or jump. And it's not because Dad died, it's because I said "died." I've said it before, but I think it bears repeating: People die. Everybody dies. It's such a basic fact of life, I don't understand why everyone feels the need to tiptoe around it. And changing the wording doesn't change anything.
Another goofy one is "no longer with us." Really? Your grandmother is no longer with you? So now she's against you? Because everyone knows, If you're not with us, you're against us. No thanks. I'll pass.


haphazardlife said...

Funny, I was just commenting on that to a friend last week. What is wrong with saying what is?

In the immortal words of Mr. Praline:

'E's passed on! This parrot is no more! He has ceased to be! 'E's expired and gone to meet 'is maker! 'E's a stiff! Bereft of life, 'e rests in peace! If you hadn't nailed 'im to the perch 'e'd be pushing up the daisies! 'Is metabolic processes are now 'istory! 'E's off the twig! 'E's kicked the bucket, 'e's shuffled off 'is mortal coil, run down the curtain and joined the bleedin' choir invisibile!! THIS IS AN EX-PARROT!!

lgsquirrel said...

I thought of the same dead parrot sketch but I see Jazz has beaten me to it. I have no problem with saying "died" but I do enjoy euphemisms. How about "he's composting"?

VioletSky said...

damn, but aren't we all Monty Python fans?!!

I remember after my father died and I would tell people and use the words 'died' and 'dead'. I found it sometimes difficult to say because somewhere, I thought it seemed almost indelicate. yet at the same time it was the only word I would use. i've gotten over it and haven't noticed any grimaces, but then I don't look at people when I say it. Saying passed just sounds silly to my ears.

OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

That phrase..."So and so passed" has been in usage for as long as I can remember....I think it has some kind of religious connection or connation---Not really sure about that---But, I'm with you. I always say..."So and so died" or 'is dead', etc....To me, that's what happened. End Of Story.

geewits said...

~~We are usually on the same page. An ex-parrot, indeed!

~~"Composting" is good, but Dad is in an urn in my library. How about, "Dad's hanging out with Winston Churchill." ?

~~I like the word "indelicate." I'm going to try to use that. Very concise.

~~I guess they meant "passed on to the next phase, plane, realm" or whatever.

Lo said...

You are so freakin silly! I love you!